Love and Romance, How To Find and Keep It

The best way to find the love and romance you want, is to go out and get it yourself. Almost all Men and women alike are attracted to confidence and humor. Don't rely on chance meetings or others to introduce you to someone. Let your air of confidence exude availability without seeming to be overly eager. Always be polite even if you are not interested in someone, and never assume that by someone's looks you can judge there personality or feelings or lack thereof. That girl or guy that you see today and think you could never be interested in, at a later time in your life may turn out to be your perfect soul mate or love. Here are a few simple common sense rules to follow if you want a lasting relationship.  1. Always be yourself. your goal should always be to find someone who cares about the real you, not someone they think is you. Sooner or later they will discover the real you and may not be happy. Honesty is the best policy in relationships. Lies have a way of coming back to haunt you 2. Communication is a major key to lasting relationships. Always talk, whether it is about trivial things, personal feelings, your hopes and aspirations, or just joking around. You should never make light of your partners beliefs or feelings, and when those inevitable awkward times or arguments occur, talk about it. You should never if possible go to bed angry or upset. You will wake up the same way. Talk but do not whine or nag. 3. Never say I love you too soon, you will scare your partner off or create an awkward moment that you may not be ready for. Let things progress naturally. when the time is right it will feel right for both of you. 4. Never make a promise you either have no intention of keeping or you know you cannot keep. If you do make a promise always follow through, or your next promise could fall on deaf ears. 5. Don't expect someone to want to be with you 24/7. You both need your own space from time to time to sort out life's priorities or feelings, as well as personal obligations. Love is a wonderful thing until you smother it... 6. trust is a wonderful foundation to build on. Distrust can be the destroyer of good relationships. trust is a hard thing to gain from some people but easy to lose, and may never be regained. Rules one and four above if misused can destroy trust so always heed them. 7. Never be overly critical of your partner, and especially never in front of someone else. Sometimes corrective criticism is needed and even welcome but not with all people. If you must correct someone do it nicely and lovingly, and don't overdue it. Adding praise along with criticism can make it easier to swallow. 8. Life is to short to worry about every little thing. Everyone has different little quirks that will cause irritations to some. If you were to really sit down and talk completely honestly, you would find that each of you have things about you that bother the other person no matter how much you love them. Always try to let the little things go. you will find usually that they aren't that big of a deal if you don't let it be. 9. Indifference can be another real problem in relationships. Some people like letting others be in control but not all people like being controlled or controlling. Indifference if perceived to be due to boredom  can cause the same reaction in your partner. So if you really don't care about what you do, always temper it by saying something like ( as long as I'm with you or as long as we do it together.) 10. I Love You. These are powerful words when said in an established relationship. But if you want to maximize and maintain that feeling, you need to treat it as a positive reinforcement for you and your partner by telling them at least once a day that you love them.