Dating is the way most of us start out as
we seek to find and keep romance. The best way to find and keep the love and
romance you want is to go out and get it yourself. Dating is the main way to do
this. Almost all men and women alike are attracted to confidence and humor.
Don't rely on chance meetings or others to introduce you to someone. You must
make a decision for yourself to find and keep romance. As you begin dating, Let
your air of confidence exude availability without seeming to be overly eager.
Always be polite, even if you are not interested in someone, and never assume
that by someone's looks you can judge their personality, feelings, or lack
thereof. That girl or guy that you see today and think you could never be
interested in, at a later time in your life, may turn out to be your perfect
soul mate or love. Here are a few simple common sense rules to follow while
dating if you want a lasting relationship. Remember, it is possible to find and
keep romance in your life!
1. Always be yourself. Your goal
should always be to find someone who cares about the real you, not someone they
think is you. Sooner or later they will discover the real you and may not be
happy. Honesty is the best policy in relationships. Lies have a way of coming
back to haunt you.
2. Communication is a major key
to lasting relationships. Always talk, whether it is about trivial things,
personal feelings, your hopes and aspirations, or just joking around. You should
never make light of your partners' beliefs or feelings, and when those
inevitable awkward times or arguments occur, talk about it. You should never go
to bed angry or upset. You will wake up the same way. Talk but do not whine or
nag.
3. Never, say I love you too soon.
You will scare your partner off or create an awkward moment for which you may
not be ready. Let things progress naturally when the time is right and it will
feel right for both of you.
4. Never, make a promise that you
have no intention of keeping or you know you cannot keep. If you do make a
promise, always follow through, or your next promise could fall on deaf ears.
5. Don't expect someone to want to be
with you 24/7. You both need your own space from time to time to sort out
life's priorities or feelings, as well as personal obligations. Love is a
wonderful thing until you smother it.
6. Trust is a wonderful foundation to
build on.
Distrust can be the destroyer of good relationships. Trust is a hard thing to
gain from some people but easy to lose, and may never be regained. Rules one and
four above, if misused, can destroy trust so always heed them.
7. Never, be overly critical of your
partner, and especially never in front of someone else. Sometimes corrective
criticism is needed and even welcomed, but not with all people. If you must
correct someone, do it nicely and lovingly, and don't overdue it. Adding praise
along with criticism can make it easier to swallow.
8. Life is too short to worry about
every little thing.
Everyone has different little quirks that will cause irritations to some. If you
were to really sit down and talk completely honestly, you would find that each
of you have things about you that bother the other person no matter how much you
love them. Always try to let the little things go. You will find usually that
they aren't that big of a deal, if you don't let them be.
9. Indifference can be another real
problem in relationships. Some people like letting others be in control but
not all people like being controlled. Indifference, if perceived to be due to
boredom, can cause the same reaction in your partner. So if you really don't
care about what you do, always temper it by saying something like, "as long as
I'm with you" or "as long as we do it together."
10. I love you. These are
powerful words when said in an established relationship. However, if you want to
maximize and maintain that feeling, you need to treat it as a positive
reinforcement for you and your partner by telling them at least once a day that
you love them.
