First Date Do's and Don'ts
First dates are very nerve racking and often leave us shy, silent and blowing
our chances of getting a second one because we weren't prepared for this one.
Here are some pointers to help you get the best start and make a good
impression.

Do
1. Be on time - The last thing you
want to do is make a bad impression on your date. If you are late they will
think that you don't care and worse still might not hang around for you to turn
up.
2. Make your partner feel comfortable
- We all feel like a bag of nerves on our first date with someone; so by making
them feel comfortable you will also be able to relax and enjoy yourself.
3. Be an interesting date - The worse
thing you can do is turn up for a date with someone then sit there all night and
talk or worse still talking and not making sense or having nothing good to talk
about.
4. Laugh at their jokes - Even if you
have heard the joke 100 times or more (or it just isn't funny at all) laughing a
long with them will make them feel you are interested in them.
5. Keep the conversation alive - That
dreaded silence when no one knows what to say can seem to last for a life time
and will make both of you think the other is boring. Jot down a few questions
you would like to ask. Practicing for the date can make all the difference and
once you have started the rest will just follow. Here are a few
conversation starters you could use.
6. Take an interest in them - Listen
to them when they are talking. Be interested in what they have to say and show
how interested you are by asking them questions about what they like to do etc..
7. Take them somewhere unique - First
dates don't just have to be about going to the cinema or to a restaurant for a
nice meal. You will make a longer, lasting impression if you are imaginative
with your date.
8. Be confident - Confidence says a
lot about a person. Being more confident will help you get through that first
date with ease.
9. Be yourself - You won't fool anyone
by pretending to be someone you are not. Also if you are wanting to continue
seeing them, the real you will come out eventually and they may no longer be
interested.
10. Most importantly - STAY SAFE.
Check out our guide to
dating safely

Don't
1. Be late - First impressions count
and if you are late this will make them think of you as lazy, having lack of
responsibilities, etc..
2. Talk about yourself all night -
There is nothing worse then a person that loves to talk about themselves all the
time. How vain can you get?
3. Talk about past relationships all night
- May be that's how you lost the last one. Nobody wants to hear you drone on
about your ex and what they did or didn't do. Concentrate on this one and see if
you can get to the second date.
4. Eat with your mouth open - Just the
thought of it makes my stomach turn so save your date the horrible experience.
5. Ask too many personal questions -
This is your first date and they won't want to reveal to much about themselves
just yet. If you like each other and want to continue with the relationship then
there will be plenty of time to ask questions.
6. Try to be something you are not -
You will only attract the way that you act and if that is not the real you, when
the real you does come out the other person will not be interested. Find someone
that will want you for you not for what you are pretending to be.
7. Forget to thank them for the date -
Not only is this good manners but this is where you will get your chance to end
it if you are not interested or for you to ask them out on another date if you
would like to see them again.
8. Propose marriage or kids - Unless
you don't want to see them again.
9. Pursue sex after your partner has said
no
10. Don't get drunk - You don't want
to spend half the night in the toilet vomiting and your date won't think much of
you. You can also put yourself at risk of unwanted advances and will not be in
the right frame of mind or body to do anything about it.